What practical steps can reduce shame around discussing sexual pleasure?

Reducing shame around discussing sexual pleasure is a journey, but there are practical steps you can take to make these conversations easier and more empowering. Here at Alloy, we encourage the following:

Start conversations with friends or partners about sexual pleasure, even if it feels awkward at first. The more you talk, the easier it becomes.
Attend sex-positive events, webinars, or discussion groups. These spaces can help normalize the topic and provide valuable information.
Read books or articles about sexual health and pleasure. Sharing what you learn can spark open dialogue.
Use meta-communication: Begin by saying, “This is hard for me to talk about, but I want us to have the best relationship possible.” This helps set a supportive tone.
Reflect on your own beliefs and experiences around sexuality. Understanding where your feelings come from can help you move past shame.
Remember, there is nothing shameful about sexual pleasure. The World Health Organization recognizes it as a fundamental human right.

If you want more guidance, check out these helpful resources:

Watch Dr. Laurie Mintz discuss overcoming shame and stigma in her YouTube chapter: Overcoming Shame and Stigma
See Marissa Nelson talk about creating safe conversations around sex and intimacy: Talking About Sex and Intimacy
Explore Dr. Maria Uloko’s holistic approach to mental health and shame in sexual health: Mental Health and Shame

For more in-depth articles and expert advice, visit our blog on Sex, Relationships, & Peri/Menopause and Live Your Best Sex Life Through Menopause & Beyond.

At Alloy, we believe everyone deserves pleasure and open, shame-free conversations about sexual health. If you’re experiencing physical symptoms that impact your pleasure, such as dryness or discomfort, explore our vaginal health solutions designed to help you feel your best.

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